|Justin and Elise Father's Day 2011|
There many little girls living undercover, as adult women who suffer in silence. Rejecting others because we have been rejected ourselves. I won't be silent any longer. I won't go into all the details of my flawed relationship with my biological father, but I will say that I don't know him that well. Most of what I do know about my father is second hand information from my mother and not all of it is good. My mother is not a stereotypical single black mom, and has never bad mouthed my father, but most of what I know has been formed by his actions and in-actions towards my mother and I. He has knowingly and unknowingly hurt me thousand of times. I could sit here and blame him for all my problems, stay dormant and bitter or choose the better option to forgive and move on.
I forgive. Forgiveness is the key to loving without expectation. The wound will heal, the scar is a reminder of where I've been so I can see where I am going. Here's to a better tomorrow because I choose today to live peacefully.
This video says it all....
Quotes of the day
Doesn't matter how tough we are, trauma always leaves a scar. It follows us home, it changes our lives, trauma messes everybody up, but maybe that's the point. All the pain and the fear and the crap. Maybe going through all of that is what keeps us moving forward. It's what pushes us. Maybe we have to get a little messed up, before we can step up.
-Alex narrating, Greys Anatomy
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls. The most massive characters are seared with scars.
Peace and Love,
Najeema Iman, I AM Curly Locks